9 Do's and Don'ts for Intended Parents and Surrogates

Choosing surrogacy as a means of fertility treatment can be overwhelming in itself. Then comes another big ride and that is meeting your surrogate or meeting the intended parents for the first time. It is indeed a rollercoaster of emotions. You’ll be filled with all kinds of mixed emotions and let us enlighten you that it is all normal!

Although our meticulous matching procedure ensures that your first meet goes well, here’s a head start for you. Follow these 9 tips to help you have your perfect first meet.

Do's

  • Do a preliminary background check on your chosen parents or surrogate. Checking their profile is a simple way to do this. This way, you’ll know a little something about the person you’re about to meet, and it’ll also serve as a terrific ice breaker. Prepare a set of all important questions you need to ask, this will help you in saving theirs and your time on the day of the meeting.
  • Be a good listener and try to have a casual conversation, talk about other random topics as well. Be open about your expectations and prepare relevant questions beforehand.
  • Talk about your objectives and be entirely transparent about them, so that they are aware of your expectations and can live up to them. This is extremely important as you both are going to be bonded for a whole year.
  • Be you! They say the first impression is the last, as much as it is true, you do not need to pretend to be someone else just to please the opposite person as this is a serious commitment, hence for how long will you pretend? Thus, be the best version of yourself but do not fake it. This will create a trustworthy and healthy environment for both surrogate and intended parents entering into a surrogacy arrangement.
  • Do understand the purpose of why you are here and that it is a give and take relationship. The more you share about yourself, the more you might get in return. Surrogacy consultation is all about discovering what’s best option for your parenthood goals as intended parent.

Don’ts:

  • Do not talk about money in the first meeting as it can give a wrong impression. While in commercial surrogacy, compensation is a crucial part, it is not the sole purpose of it. Surrogacy is much more than money and hence keep this for future conversations and get to know each other well in the first meet.
  • Do not bombard them with thousands of questions. While we understand you want to know every single thing about your surrogate or intended parents in the first go, but it is recommended to have patience, as knowing someone can take a certain amount of time.
  • Do not impose your rules on them. Every human being is different and has a way of leading a life. Your surrogate or your intended parents might not be like you. Hence, be welcoming of their choices and do not plan on giving explicit directions. It’s an essential part of the surrogacy process and your selected surrogacy professionals will guide you when you both the parties are ready to proceed.
  • Don’t stress, the goal of the first meeting is to check your compatibility with them; hence you need to be relaxed, so you can be at your best. Indulge in relaxing techniques to calm your nerves. Your initial meeting will decide how your surrogacy journey will proceed and right guidance of credible surrogacy agency is crucial for that.

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    Choosing surrogacy as a means of fertility treatment can be overwhelming in itself. Then comes another big ride and that is meeting your surrogate or meeting the intended parents for the first time. It is indeed a rollercoaster of emotions. You’ll be filled with all kinds of mixed emotions and let us enlighten you that it is all normal!

    Although our meticulous matching procedure ensures that your first meet goes well, here’s a head start for you. Follow these 9 tips to help you have your perfect first meet.

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    Do's

    • Do a preliminary background check on your chosen parents or surrogate. Checking their profile is a simple way to do this. This way, you’ll know a little something about the person you’re about to meet, and it’ll also serve as a terrific ice breaker. Prepare a set of all important questions you need to ask, this will help you in saving theirs and your time on the day of the meeting.
    • Be a good listener and try to have a casual conversation, talk about other random topics as well. Be open about your expectations and prepare relevant questions beforehand.
    • Talk about your objectives and be entirely transparent about them, so that they are aware of your expectations and can live up to them. This is extremely important as you both are going to be bonded for a whole year.
    • Be you! They say the first impression is the last, as much as it is true, you do not need to pretend to be someone else just to please the opposite person as this is a serious commitment, hence for how long will you pretend? Thus, be the best version of yourself but do not fake it. This will create a trustworthy and healthy environment for both surrogate and intended parents entering into a surrogacy arrangement.
    • Do understand the purpose of why you are here and that it is a give and take relationship. The more you share about yourself, the more you might get in return. Surrogacy consultation is all about discovering what’s best option for your parenthood goals as intended parent.

    Don’ts:

    • Do not talk about money in the first meeting as it can give a wrong impression. While in commercial surrogacy, compensation is a crucial part, it is not the sole purpose of it. Surrogacy is much more than money and hence keep this for future conversations and get to know each other well in the first meet.
    • Do not bombard them with thousands of questions. While we understand you want to know every single thing about your surrogate or intended parents in the first go, but it is recommended to have patience, as knowing someone can take a certain amount of time.
    • Do not impose your rules on them. Every human being is different and has a way of leading a life. Your surrogate or your intended parents might not be like you. Hence, be welcoming of their choices and do not plan on giving explicit directions. It’s an essential part of the surrogacy process and your selected surrogacy professionals will guide you when you both the parties are ready to proceed.
    • Don’t stress, the goal of the first meeting is to check your compatibility with them; hence you need to be relaxed, so you can be at your best. Indulge in relaxing techniques to calm your nerves. Your initial meeting will decide how your surrogacy journey will proceed and right guidance of credible surrogacy agency is crucial for that.

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